How To Deal With Strangers Living In Our Families and Behaving Disapprovingly
December 4
(How Venerable Lot Dealt With An Elderly Guest)
By Archpriest Victor Guryev
December 4
(How Venerable Lot Dealt With An Elderly Guest)
By Archpriest Victor Guryev
It happens that some Christians, out of kindness, sometimes give shelter to their poor relatives or other helpless wanderers. This is a good deed, but here's the problem: often, instead of repaying their benefactors with all possible meekness and love, these people cause them grief with their behavior. What should we do with them?
A certain ailing elder came to the Venerable Lot in the desert and begged him to let him stay with him. Lot agreed, received the elder, and gave him rest. And since many people came to Lot for guidance, he, wishing to relieve himself somewhat, began sending some to his guest. The latter, instead of converting those sent to him to the true path, only led them astray, instilling in them some of Origen's errors. Lot learned of this and was troubled. "What," he thought, "will the fathers say about us now? They will think that we are the same as this stranger. And I am afraid to expel him, lest I anger God." So Lot went to Abba Arsenios for advice. After hearing about the elder, Arsenios said, "Don't drive him away, but tell him this: If you wish to enjoy my hospitality, enjoy it as much as you wish, but do not lead others into sin. Then your guest will either abandon his errors or leave you; and in either case, you will be right." Lot followed Arsenios's advice and conveyed his words to the elder. The elder, having heard them, refused to abandon his errors and immediately decided to leave Lot. The Abba dismissed the guest with love.
Therefore, if any of you were in Lot's place, you too could perhaps act as he did. If your restless guests accept your admonitions, well and good; if not, they will most likely abandon you. Your conscience will remain clear. Amen.
Source: Translated by John Sanidopoulos.
