The Month of November
Day 15
79. How Mothers Should Act When Arranging Marriages for Their Daughters
(From the account of the sufferings of the Holy Martyrs Gurias, Samonas, and Abibus)
Christian mothers who have grown-up daughters undoubtedly, in most cases, are concerned first and foremost with how to arrange marriages for their daughters. And when this concern is crowned with success and a bridegroom appears, another concern arises: how to prepare a suitable dowry for the daughter. From then until the wedding day, almost all their time is taken up with this concern. Many things must be bought, many things sewn, and many other arrangements made. In our opinion, many mothers, becoming absorbed in all this, fall into a serious error. Devoting themselves entirely to worldly concerns, they forget, because of them, the spiritual concern that ought to rest upon them, namely, fervent and ardent prayer for their daughters. This, indeed, should be the mothers' chief concern. For who can guarantee that their daughters' future married lives will be happy? And who, apart from God, can grant them this happiness? And who, finally, in the event of some misfortune, can deliver their daughters from it, except God? Therefore, when arranging marriages for their daughters, mothers must first of all pray earnestly that the Lord grant their daughters happiness in marriage and deliver them from all misfortunes and evils in their family lives. From this it follows that the mothers' preparations for their daughters should be preparations, and prayer should be prayer. Let mothers also understand that the latter is necessary for them because, as a mother's prayer, it is a great thing for her children. As the saying goes, it reaches down to the bottom of the sea and delivers from death. And what the people say is, in this case, absolutely true.